Relationship Advice: Slow Down Ladies!!

Dating today has become a push-pull cycle of wants and needs. What can you give and what can you get? Everyone single person I know wants to get into a relationship and everyone I know that is in a relationship wants out. This, the first decade of the new millennium has seen some ebb and flow to the tides of dating. Women are more independent and sexually free that ever before. Men are much more flexible as well, some say too much so.

In a recent poll men were asked what they think of a woman that agrees to have sex with him on the first date and whips out her own condom. The results were not favorable. Sex is easy to get, always so for women, now very true for men. It’s not as rare a specialty item anymore but still it seems guys are more comfortable when things more at a more reasonable pace. Sex too soon with a girl that whips out her own condom is still a bad signal to men that maybe she is doing this fairly regularly. Insert double standard here.

If it’s ok and bravo for a guy to score fast, then why is it still criminal for a girl to do it and be smart about protecting them both? Since cheating and disease is more rampant that anyone cares to admit, why take chances?

Sex too soon is never a good idea anyway. Women release the attachment hormone (Oxytocin) during sex, and men are not sure what makes them a good guy or a bad guy anymore, the playing field is still pretty confusing. Women have more control than ever and they seem to be placed in situations that require them to make decisions when they are in a Pheromone/Oxytocin high. Men (usually, but not always) are Testosterone poisoned and aren’t thinking clearly to begin with.

With men living with Mom and Dad longer and stability seems out of reach have been relying on the love relationship to carry the load. Woman are often more stable as far as living situation and finance and men seem to need more from a girl than just romance.