The Effect of Fatherless Families on Boys?

When a father is absent, he sets the entire family unit back many, many years. All the children miss out on first-hand leadership, sacrificial love, and what being a caretaker and a protector is all about. The children's lives are incomplete, even if they are good kids that do all of the right things. The father's role cannot be duplicated nor can the mother replace the father in their lives...although many of them do a valiant job at cross-training. Many boys are fatherless because of negligence of the father. Many fathers believe after the marriage is over, so is child rearing. They are far less than the sperm donor they have become.

How can a so-called father handle such a precious relationship so carelessly? How can they not know that from the time they take their first breath until he takes his last breath, he is supposed to be a daddy? When a father abandons his children, for all intended purposes he has disowned them. It's a hate that can't be matched and it hurts to the bone. Some children never recover, some carry this burden of 'worthlessness' or 'not being good enough' all of their lives.

But it's the son where the most damage is done. His father is as much if not more so apart of his makeup as his mother...and mommas role in his life is just as important...but it's a much different role. A son needs the uniqueness of a 'good daddy', one that will impose his will on his son in times of rebellion, disobedience and defiance. A son needs a 'good daddy' in good times as well...for support and to just share with.

Many of those sons are always looking back, they just can't wipe away the haunting memory of a father that just didn't want them. Having a father they have never been able to count on is a recurring nightmare over and over again. Many boys are in a daze because of the emotional scars. Some will be torched souls for the rest of their natural lives because of their father's indifference and inability to really love them. Some just want to escape to somewhere, anywhere else, but they can't leave, there is nowhere to go.