Reasons Why Your Husband to Be Doesn't Care..
My wedding day is looming fast. Food is being chosen, guest list is being narrowed down, music is being selected…
But one thing I’ve noticed is that the WHOLE process of marriage and a wedding is oriented to the Bride. HER special day. HER day to be a princess. HER party. There are no men’s magazines about ‘the big day’. No shops devoted to men’s wedding clothing. (Formal wear for all occasions- yes. Wedding day? No.) No TV shows about it.
Everywhere I turn there is lace, satin, and pearls. White, pink, baby blue… Hearts, doves, clasped hands, filigree design work. Girls in fluffy white gowns clinging to men in sharp black suits. More hearts and flowers.
If you’re not a girly sort of girl, as I am, it’s enough to make you want to gag or scream. I can only imagine the sort of mental anguish this causes a man to go through. Unless I’m mistaken, the bride isn’t the only important person at a wedding. Last I checked, she sort of has a groom there to join with, doesn’t she? There are only a few things you legally and spiritually need at a wedding to make it valid and he’s one of them.
My wedding, I promised my future husband, would be OUR wedding. It’s about OUR love and OUR decision to be together. It’s not about what I want but what WE want. It’s not about what my mother wants or what his mother wants or what our families want. It’s about US.
A lot of brides—no, strike that… It’s not a lot of brides. It’s the world brides are forced to live in. Hearts. Bells. Flowers. Doves. White gowns. Lace. Pearls. Flowers. A bride is TOLD this is what her wedding should be, so she expects it. She’s TOLD it’s all about her and so she believes it to be.
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- Chosing wedding schemes together makes it YOUR special day as a couple.
- A wedding is a celebration of Bride and Groom - not just bride.
- Try picking neutral colors or decorating plans to avoid annoying mush.
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Anne McLean
09/26/2008
I agree. You know, Biblical weddings were a lot different from modern weddings; Biblical weddings were actually about the groom, and the bride was making herself beautiful for the groom, not to be in the spotlight.
One problem, though, with having your husband help, is he's been fed the same ideas--the wedding is about the bride, so he likely won't care, which is a shame!
Kristin Moran
09/18/2006
When I was *gasp* engaged, over a decade ago (scary thought), my then fiance mentioned wanting to see his teenage brother get wasted at the reception. At that point I decided to delay the wedding until the groom would be legal to drink. And, as fate would have it, I dodged that bullet entirely. Still, scary thought, Jason's version of a wedding/reception.
Stephanie Dray
09/17/2006
It's about the bride, because the rest of the marriage is all about him ;)
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