"Survivors" of Sexual Abuse Can Lead Healthy and Fulfilling Lives Whereas "Victims" Are Often the Opposite

In a prior post titled Are You Aware of the Complex Web of Negative Energy That's Created when a Child is Sexually Abused?, Angel asked me the following question:

"Shawn, what if you find someone who you've been compatible with on many levels? You and she become so close that she feels that she could open up to you about her abuse, wanting to be honest with you she tells you what happened to her. Would you automatically seal your heart off and move on?"

I think this is absolutely relative to the toxic web of negativity that's initiated by those wicked men who rape women and molest children. Not only has he violently violated a woman or young girl, he's put me in a spot where I have to painfully question my beliefs and morals.

I have to put some things into perspective here and maybe I'm just thinking out loud so please bear with me. I find myself listing out the things that I believe (some) victims of sexual abuse to be capable of.

-Cheating and/or Malicious Cheating.

-Murder & Murder/Suicide.

-Harboring and Concealing deep emotional ghosts from their past which often blackens their soul.

-Becoming very gender prejudice, sometimes concealing it very well, sometimes being quite open with it.

-Violent outbreaks of irrational behavior which tend to be triggered by specific events.

-Lives by their own "Code" which often seems contrary to good moral conduct.

-Is well versed in justifying and validating their immoral code while manipulating others into agreement with their deceptive arguments.

-Exhibits a very coy sense of extensive selfishness.

-Sexual behavior seems imbalanced or outrageous.

-Exercises a variety of Control and Power tactics in their social circles.

-Exhibits signs of depression, anxiety and post-traumatic stress disorder.

-Demonstrates a propensity for instigating and perpetuating social drama.

-Has a history of toxic and dysfunctional relationships.

-Demonstrates behavior that suggests they enjoy "Playing The Victim".

-Exhibits bisexual behavior or bisexual curiosity.

-Practices several various double standards in their relationships.