How to Transition Toddlers from Co-Sleeping to Beds of Their Own

The transition from co-sleeping to toddler bed doesn't have to be a struggle, especially if your toddler is as ready as you are. Things will go more smoothly if you take it slow to make the transition more gentle on everyone. The key is to be consistent but flexible and encouraging but not forceful. Teach your child to sleep in her own bed step by step, and you will gradually meet success.

Start by talking. Talk to your spouse in front of your partner about your child beginning to sleep on her own soon at times when the child will hear. Talk directly to your toddler out it, or even to her favorite teddy bear. Ask her what she thinks of it. Won't it be exciting for her to have a bed of her very own?

Have your child help pick out her toddler bed and bedding, as well as a few special pillows. Encourage her to help you set the bed up and put the bedding on it. Show excitement about the new purchase. Isn't it a pretty bed? What a cool pillow! Isn't she excited about sleeping in her neat, new bed tonight?

Establish a routine well before you try to transition, and follow it the first night. In our house, we have a bath, brush our teeth, get into our pajamas, and then get tucked in with a kiss goodnight. That's all it takes! You may chose to have some quiet cuddle time in front of the TV or to read a story. What's important here is a consistent routine as well as some last-minute togetherness before bed.

Make sure your child has everything she needs. Cup of water? Check. Favorite teddy bear and blanket? Check, check. Dry diaper? Check. Is she hungry? Does she need a snack? Make sure she has enough blankets to be warm and the right lighting to fall asleep in.

Now, it's time-but don't leave! It's just her first night in this new bed in her own room. Not only is she used to sleeping in your room in your bed, she is used to sleeping with you. Lay down with her until she falls asleep, at least for the first few nights-preferably the first few weeks. When she's sleeping, slip out quietly, and return if she wakes and needs you again.