Will Our Renewed Friendship Lead to Real Lasting Love?

An Ex Ponders If Their Breakup is Final or If Maybe There is a Second Chance at Love

Dear Zuri,

I was with this woman for seven of the best months of my life until she broke my heart in November 2007. She became involved with someone else but has since broken up with him, maintaining that friends with benefits connection that you describe in your articles.

She stopped talking to me in February because that's when the new guy asked her out. Then out of nowhere she called me on February 25. She told me she broke up with him because she was not ready to be with him but still sees him casually. We talked for four hours just catching up on things and the other days we talked on the computer IMing each other. Man, I miss and love her. Just to let you know she called me, I did not call her.

We are still friends because she said she will be there for me and I said the same. Will that friendship lead to real love? Are we going to get back together? What is going to happen with the other guy? I know I have to work on self love for her to see it. Thank you for your time and I hope to hear from you soon.

- CR 1/87 and VT 8/85

Dear CR,

I decided to consult my trusty tarot cards to get a clear picture of where your ex is at emotionally and what is going to happen between you, her and this other guy. Even though she feels a relationship with you would be grounded, reliable and stable, she does not value what you have to offer because it's too easy and feels that she can have it anytime she wants. The problem is she views you as the nice guy and she is attracted to a challenge, someone that excites her and offers more of an unknown.