Ashamed to Be White in America?

By Shanika, published Mar 13, 2008
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When I was 11 years old, my best friend told me that she was ashamed to be white. We were playing with Barbies (which, ironically, all happened to be white), when she confessed to me that not only did she envy my ethnicity, but she felt guilty for her people's treatment of Jews and many other races. Oddly, my friend failed to realize that the ethnicity that she so envied, while part black, is also part white. I can't remember what I said to her, though I would like to think that I encouraged her to feel otherwise. I've never forgotten her words and have thought about them differently throughout my life. As an ignorant teen, I thought her guilt was justified. I thought about how Whites had decimated the Indian population, murdered Jews and enslaved Africans. In later, enlightened years, I came to realize that her guilt was absurd, even kind of sad.

My step-father, a black man who grew up during the time of segregation, has said that had it not been Whites, it would have been someone else. Whites aren't more prone to committing racial atrocities, people in power are. It just so happened that Whites have been in power for a particularly long time. Africans also participated in slave trade, and still do. Throughout history, races have pitted against one another. It is ignorant to assume that Whites are somehow responsible for the genocide in Africa, or the once racial conflict between Japan and China.

It seems that my friend is not alone in her guilt. This morning, I came across Linda Corby's article which features another AC writer's disturbing opinion about his own race: Whites. (Please read it here)

Nowadays, "white pride" is something to be shunned. In America, Blacks celebrate their history, accomplishments and skin color. Latinos incorporate their language and customs. Most Whites happily embrace and celebrate things like Black History Month and Cinco de Maya. When it comes to other races, these Whites seem to understand the importance of racial pride and conservationism. Why then, can't they feel pride for their own race?

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Great piece Shanika!!! In many ways in America. we are a bigger melting pot than we imagine. We look at the outer skin and define ourselves but the core truth is many of us share DNA and acestry in common.

Posted on 07/13/2008 at 4:07:55 AM

 
Your Husband is one lucky guy! You rock! I'd back you up in any barfight!

Posted on 06/03/2008 at 8:06:40 PM

 
When I was young (like 12) I wished that I was not white because my friends were all black and hispanic. I wanted to fit in. It's sad that people have to feel that way about race in any way whatsoever. If only we could all just love each other for what we are. Very good piece and sorry it took me so long to comment, I'm so far behind (900 emails to be exact) in my reading.

Posted on 04/28/2008 at 5:04:57 PM

 
Well said, Shanika, well said. My husband is white, so, my kids are both black and white. Why should they choose which race/culture to celebrate? My husband is the one who kind of opened my eyes to so many things, believe it or not. My parents grew up during segregation and strongly believe that white people are responsible for everything. There was a time when my husband was out of a job and my dad said he was just lazy because (and I quote),"He's white. There's no excuse for him not to get a job." Wow, what a racist statement. Anyways, great article.

Posted on 04/25/2008 at 12:04:36 PM

 
"Cultures should be celebrated, but not at the expense of another." Hear, hear!

Posted on 04/22/2008 at 10:04:45 AM

 
Gosh !!!....this is so sad !! ...I am not ashamed of being white..but it saddens me to think of what happened in the past with our ancestors..the hurt that it caused many people.....I don't see race as anything more than skin color..because that is all it is...we are all human...with a soul...the skin is just the outer cloth...I have seen beautiful, good people of all races..!...I've seen evil..bad people of all colors too....

Posted on 04/06/2008 at 6:04:24 PM

 
This is a beautiful article! Although I've never been ashamed to be white, I have felt ashamed of how previous generations have treated other races. I never wanted that to be connected to the color of my skin because it doesn't reflect who I am at all.

Posted on 04/02/2008 at 9:04:50 AM

 
Nice piece Shanika :) You all were very bright at a young age having conversations like that and at the same time still showing the innocent side playing with dolls. Your father makes a really good point and definitely a take on racism I don't think I have ever seen. As for myself, I don't think anyone should hate their race for something others do. It will be nice when the day comes where there isn't any controversy over race and we can all just be called Americans.

Posted on 03/29/2008 at 8:03:52 AM

 
Thanks for sharing your personal views and experiences Shanika. We can learn a lot about ourselves and the state of race relations in our country by listening to the experiences of people from biracial and multicultural backgrounds.

Posted on 03/20/2008 at 4:03:42 PM

 
There is a beautiful book called, "Healing America's Wounds" that talks about how people can deal with white guilt. This is such a good read, I am genuinely glad that you wrote this.

Posted on 03/18/2008 at 10:03:07 AM

 
Glad I read this - what a wonderful piece. I grew up in Europe and I fail to understand some of the racial issues here. I see them and I hear them and I wonder why. It makes no sense to me - we all bleed red. I was so happy to read that you embrace both your blackness and your whiteness - there is no reason to deny any part of yourself. I have not read Obama's book but someone posted on another site excerpts that show his struggle and rejection of his monther's people as he put it. His mother's people are his family for goodness sakes. Very troublesome, I just hope the book acted as a catalyst and he sees a few things differently now. Shanika I agree this should be a feature article. Great job:)

Posted on 03/17/2008 at 6:03:54 AM

 
I started to read this the other day, but was sleepy - so now I am back. I absolutely love this and yes I am ashamed sometimes to be white. Especially living down in the south here. Most of my friends are either black or they are married to black men. The racism is sickening and I even see it in my own church, still. I embrace diversity and I love learning about other cultures and customs. This is a beautiful piece Shanika. I am proud to be Slovakian and Italian :) Yes my Grandpa on Mom's side is Italian and my Dad is 100% Slovakian. My (step) Mom is 100% Mexican American

Posted on 03/16/2008 at 2:03:55 PM

 
Powerful article - fascinating read!

Posted on 03/16/2008 at 12:03:24 AM

 
I am White (well kinda) , my husband Asian, two of my children are white and Mexican and two are..........well.........I have no idea. I really don't care about race or color. My two unknown race children are always asking what they are and I have no way of finding out until they are 18. If I had to guess, I would say they are hispanic and African American. My whole family is just beautiful!! I'm not the least bit ashamed of being white. Why would I be ashamed of the color that God choose for me? We are looking for a daughter to adopt now and we don't care what color she is, we just want her to be full of spirit and hard headed just the way little girls are supposed to be. LOL

Posted on 03/14/2008 at 2:03:16 PM

 
I hope everyone reads the second page so that they understand your unique perspective and background. We have a similar situation as adoptive parents of an ethnic minority but not one that is easily recognized in America as a minority. However, we got an instant lesson in racial and ethnic identity as well as ambivalence and shame from one child's viewpoint. I am often thinking of these things and was glad to see your article.

Posted on 03/14/2008 at 8:03:11 AM

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