What's More Important, Being in Love or Being in an Interracial Relationship?

I once posted this interracial relationship question in several different online group forums. Here's the posting as stated:

"I read a lot of text that people put out there in the Interracial Arena and from what I see, I find myself wanting to ask a direct question. What do you hold more valuable, the fact that you're in a loving relationship with someone that you share that magical chemistry with or that you're just in a relationship with someone of the race you're particularly interested in? Be honest!"

The reason I posted this topic was because as I engage in a variety of different interracial forums, I frequently get the notion that many people have engaged in interracial relationships for all the wrong reasons. Don't get me wrong, I do see many interracial relationships that seem to have all the chemistry and building blocks that I personally would look for in a relationship with a woman and I think that's absolutely wonderful. But there are some people that seem to be involved with someone simply based on the color of their skin.

What are the signs of this?

Possibly when you see text from them saying things like "Yes, I'm in an interracial relationship, if you don't like it then (bleep) off!" or they act like they're sticking the fact that they're in an interracial relationship smack dab in your face. It's my opinion that if you're truly "in love" with someone and they happen to be of another race, this kind of outward aggression and negativity simply wouldn't happen. To me, being in an interracial relationship has nothing to do with making a social statement to the world; it's simply about being "in love".

I don't feel any of the responses I got back were negative, they all seemed very positive. However, I really wanted to see more responses from specific people that I personally had questionable thoughts of, and yet didn't see any responses from them people and I know many of them have seen the posting. I suppose there are many reasons why people wouldn't want to respond to a topic like this, I feel I know the answer to this, but I'd prefer to let them speak for themselves.

Date Originally Written: January 2, 2006