Where is Dad? a Man's Role in Pregnancy

Ok, so it took two to tango and make that baby you are carrying around in your uterus, but too often it may seem like after that fun night of passion you are on your own for 40 weeks. At least when it comes to the planning for your upcoming arrival that is!

There is just something about pregnancy that really makes some men run and duck under the nearest rock, or in the nearest garage. Girl, if you have a man like that, you have your work cut out for you!

First, before you go kicking your man out of the house, think about why he might be acting uninterested in your new baby plans. Most men act uninterested for one of two reasons. Even after you determine what the reason for his elusiveness is, don't jump on his case. Try to be understanding and help him through this difficult time. Remember, you are not the only one going through changes in life.

Reason One: They are terrified!

Reason Two: They don't know what you want them to do!

So, take a nap, wake up in a great mood, and go drag that Dad-to-be from his hiding spot. If you want to get him more involved, you are going to need a list of things for him to do. Sure your man might complain about his "honey-do" list most days, but they will likely embrace a list that guides them through pregnancy.

You might put a little timeline on the list that tells them how often you are going to the doctor and what you need to do for planning month-by-month (painting the room, buying furniture, the baby shower). Men often respond well to lists. Sure, they may complain about their "honey-do" lists, but the truth is that they function well using them. They know exactly what's expected of them and can comfortably fit into that idea. When they are feeling overwhelmed by being a future father, something as stable and outlined as a list will be a welcomed thing.