Is Running an Official Background Check on a Potential New Partner Just Being Paranoid?

Have you ever felt the urge to run an official Background Check on a potential new partner, yet declined it because you felt rather guilty about doing something like this behind their back? Have you ever found yourself actually feeling offended after learning that someone has just run a background check on you?

We're living in a world today where too many times, people simply aren't what they seem, especially amongst singles in the dating scene. There are a lot of good people being taken advantage of left and right these days because they're giving their new partners and/or friends and acquaintances more trust than they've actually earned too quickly into their relationships. But sometimes when a person has been taken advantage of, it's not always just them who suffer the consequences because sometimes such people have CHILDREN who can suffer just as much or more!

After separating from a thirteen year long relationship, I quickly found out how terrifying it can be to be freshly single and unaware of all the malicious games that many singles (BOTH genders) play. Without know any better, many newly single people find themselves targeted by vicious predators who are amazingly skilled, experienced and relentless in their tactics. So how is one to effectively protect themselves from all this negativity while making a genuine effort to seek out a quality relationship?

What does it really mean when someone runs an official Background Check on a potential new partner? Are they demonstrating paranoia, or are they demonstration a healthy degree self-respect and concern for their greater wellbeing of either themselves or their children if they happen to have them? Are they violating someone's personal boundaries and disrespecting the privacy of those they're checking up on?

What if you were to ask for your partner's permission first while offering them an updated background check on yourself in return? Would that ultimately or conceptually be any different than requesting that you both have blood tests done to check for sexually transmitted diseases?