When Someone Tries to Sabotage Their Relationship with You, They're Ultimately Doing You a HUGE Favor!

Between my private conversations with people and my travels throughout various online romance oriented forums, I frequently find people complaining of their partner sabotaging their relationship or people sabotaging their relationships themselves. This is insanely frustrating for someone who's giving their relationship a genuine effort, but what's really the most mature and responsible thing to do in a situations like these? Should the relationship be ended or is there really hope between them?

There's a very nasty word that commonly surrounds relational sabotage; Drama! Whether it's intended or completely unexpected, Drama ALWAYS shows it's ugly face while someone is sabotaging their relationship. But given how popular and idolized drama is in our society, I think too many people find it to be perfectly normal behavior.

But I must make note that "Normal Behavior" is often defined as the behavior that's most common among any other behaviors. But, that doesn't necessarily mean that it's HEALTHY behavior.

So what really drives people to sabotage their relationships once their relationships start showing signs of becoming more serious in nature? In my opinion, the most basic reason is that they've come to antiquate "Love" as something that's ultimately hurtful so they live in fear of it. So what causes one to fear love? There are two very good examples that come to mind.

1. I think the most likely reason that someone would fear love is the result of past emotional and/or physical trauma or abuse that's associated with someone who they felt should have loved them unconditionally and didn't.

2. I think the second most likely reason that someone would fear love is because their parent's (or legal guardians) relationship reflected a lot of dysfunctional and abusive behavior between them. So when such a person realizes that their relationship has transcended to a level where they feel "Love" resides, then their relationship becomes their enemy (the arrival of fear) and they must disconnect from it accordingly.