Words of Wisdom About Love and Life

You Live and You Learn

First, learn to love yourself. Every one of us is worth loving, but nobody owes you love. It might be, that nobody will ever love you, so you better love yourself, just in case. And, as it most likely will be, somebody WILL love you, and if you love yourself, it is a lot easier to believe and accept, that the other one is honest about his or her feelings.

Never fake it. Don't pretend you're more in love than you know you are. It's not you being unemotional; it's just that it's not the right person. You are not incapable of loving, even though it sometimes might feel that way. If you lie to your partner, at least don't lie to yourself.

Opposites attract, but they won't last. After a while, the company of a different person starts irritating you to the point it's driving you nuts. Find someone who is as much like you as possible.

Look for true love, but don't get depressed for not finding it. There is plenty of things to do while waiting for the right one. If you want to have sex with many people, do it, but try to be safe. If you hate the condom get tested regularly. You are knowingly taking the risk of getting infected with annoying stuff like herpes, Papilloma or AIDS, and that you'll be the asshole giving it to somebody else. Don't be ashamed of your choices, but be responsible about them. If you later find someone who you like, but who thinks you've slept with too many people, don't give him/her the time of day. Your past is your past, and even though you had slept with half of the town, it's none of any ones business, including this nice person.

If you've.. Hmmm... Kept busy, and someone asks you with how many people you've slept with, mind the tone. If she/he's playful about it, go ahead and answer. If the tone of voice is worried, say it as it is: "Enough to know what I like/want."

If something about the new relationship feels wrong, something IS wrong. Don't try to put your finger on it, it makes no difference. A relationship isn't a machine that can be fixed. If it starts with a problem, it continues with a problem.