Dead Sex Life?

Okay people, we all know by reading the newspapers and tabloids, listening to news reports and talking to friends and associates that there is a rash of break ups, cheating, and infidelity in this pathetic world we live in. I ask you why? Could it be because one partner is not comfortable enough to let the other know what really pleases him or her? I fail to see where this is a win-win situation, particularly if you are in a marriage or otherwise committed relationship. What? I don't get it. If you married the person, unless you amended it, the agreement was until death do you part. So I ask you, why can't it be fun and satisfying until death do you part?

It seems to me if one has chosen a partner be they life mate or spouse, well even boyfriend (which who really wants a boy) so let's go with man friend, why would you not want to share with him what it is that breaks the waves for you? A friend shared with me that her husband just doesn't do it for her anymore. So my response is, have you told him? Did he use to do it for you? If the answer is yes then maybe he is not the issue, maybe there is a communication problem. Tell him what you are feeling, don't tell me. Duh. That's an easy fix. Find out what really changed in the relationship. If it's a sexual thing, this may not be quite such an easy fix unless both partners are willing to do the work. After having listened to several stories about failed sex lives, why is it no one wants to try to fix it? And don't look outside the relationship, because cheating is definitely not the answer. All that does is complicate the hell out of lives and sometimes, no, most times, destroys a whole lot of lives and trust and you are left with feelings of poor self worth and guilt.