Asking Her Out: An Intricate Simplicity

It is a contention in the heart and head, but with an easy but subtle solution: understanding, logic and simple sentiments. With these, I will reemphasize that asking her out is an intricate simplicity. There is no doubt the "burden" falls on us, men, to understand the nature of this concept, since by norm we are the initiator of courtship. Thus, I will like to assert that the idea and reality of attempting to ask a woman out turned out to be intricate solely by our erroneous doings; partly due to misunderstanding, lack of vigor, and at times foolhardiness.

The blunders can be listed to an infinite degree but I will like to point out significant ones, which include the most crucial of all: lack of understanding (knowledge). At the onset of male puberty, when there is that little perception of the man-woman thing; questions are deliberated upon in our heads as to how to fit into our new role as men and affirm our social status among our peers, chiefly among girls. At this point, I will state that it is cruel that our bodies mature faster than our minds-in most cases. We suddenly find ourselves from the boy that enjoys wheeling cart to a man so much is expected from. It reflects in a lot of our endeavors including the subject at hand. Hence at an early age (when we are expected to be men) we yearn for the girl of our dreams and we proceed about it in a boyish manner. And unfortunately, like any other woman, the girl of our dreams, even when young, definitely expects manly gesture and frowns at immature ones. What I am trying to point out is the fact that we, men, whom so much is expected from, need to grow up fast, and if possible outgrow the feminine specie in mind because that is what will prove us as who we are assumed to be, and not our bodily features. This primary factor stressed, can be said to be the basis of a lot of our flawed actions when asking her out.