Non-Traditional Weddings

Now, if you expected this to be an article about non-traditional relationships or marriages, you are going to be sadly mistaken. I'm not here to provide commentary on gay, lesbian or group marriages, so if that's what you are looking for, move on along. What I'm here to talk about today is the non-traditional wedding. That is, a wedding that is a bit outside of the normal white dress/tuxedo church traditional marriage ceremony. If you're interested in reading more about that type of non-traditional wedding, the please, by all means, continue reading.

When I was a child, around 12 or 13 years old, at the time when many girls my age were dreaming of boyfriends, marriage, weddings and babies, I had my heart set on a career. I was the one in my family who swore I would never marry, never have children, and wanted to be a high powered business executive.

Eventually, I did become a business executive, working as the director of a national non-profit organization at one point and as a contract negotiator for a multi-billion dollar international company. Yet, now, over 20 years later (though I don’t intend to say how many years past 20 it is) I find myself working from the comfort of my own home, setting my own hours, and truly enjoying the time I spend with my two children.

Yet, I’m not married. Oh, one day I would like to be, and I find that highly ironic since for so many years I said I would never marry. Gone are the days of my staunch, “I don’t need a man!” cry, and I find myself more inclined now to want to cook, clean, and sit down at a dinner table together with my family.

Currently, I am not in a relationship, so the prospects of marriage are probably not right around the corner for me, but I find that, especially recently, I have been thinking a lot about getting married, and in particular, what kind of wedding I might have. Much like my childhood friends back when I was 12 or 13 (most of whom did marry and are now divorced – yeah, sad but true), in my mid 30s (darn, I kind of gave away my age there, huh?) I find that I’m going back and dreaming of the perfect wedding for me.