Writing an Obituary: Paying Tribute to a Life

In most modern cultures, it is the norm for an obituary (from the Latin, obitus- decease) to be published in a local paper to notify people of the death of someone. In many communities, this notice is published free giving only the basic identifying information and dates. Often, a loved one (family member or friend)f eels that a more detailed announcement that might include some more detailed information is indicated. Space for such a personally written obituary can be purchased from most newspapers. The challenge is in deciding what to say and how to say it.

Writing an obituary is not easy. The need comes at the most emotionally difficult of times - that period immediately on the heels of the death of a loved one. This emotionally trying time is often filled with confused and confusing thoughts as well as with overwhelming feelings. It is a hard time to sit down and write an obituary - But this is the time when it usually needs to be done... Usually, within days of the person's death.

An obituary can be as simple as a basic announcement giving the dates and locations of birth and death, information about any memorial gathering that is scheduled to take place and suggestions about to what organizations or charities memorial gifts can be made. An obituary can also be a rather thorough mini-biography of a person, detailing their relationships, history, qualities and accomplishments.

In writing an obituary, one must first consider the primary purpose. Is it to announce a death or to document and comment on a life? The first can be relatively brief and the second can go on for as long as the writer is willing to pay for the space to contain his/her thoughts. Too short of an obituary may seem somehow disrespectful. Too long and people are not apt to read the entire thing. Finding the right balance of personal expression and readability for those who might have known the person is of the essence.