How to Give Time and Relaxation to a Newly Returned Deployed Spouse

Deployed military personnel long to return home after being apart from their families for so long. But what do many really want when they get home? A party? A houseful of guests? Many military spouses are surprised to learn that what many returning deployed military members really want is a low key return that is both quiet and relaxing. Giving the gift of time and relaxation may seem like a sheer impossibility. After all, both sets of parents will be keen to get together at some point; friends will want to catch up and life will start to slot back into place again before the military member was deployed. But before life takes on its familiar fast pace, the military member will have some leave to use when they first return so that they can settle back into their former routine with their family, friends and work colleagues. This is the time to take a step back and to hold off on any plans to travel or undertake any major projects around the home.

Jetlag, Tiredness and Disorientation

Newly returned deployed military members may be surprised at their own reaction once they return to life back home again. Even if it was their idea to begin with to throw a party and invite their family and friends to join them, actually returning home can alter their priorities. Jetlag, tiredness, disorientation and other factors will need to be weighed into the equation.

First Day Home

The first day home does not have to involve seeing and doing "everything" all at once. First and foremost, allow your spouse the chance to let you know how they feel and what pace they can most comfortably cope with. Do they need to sleep as soon as they get home? Would they like to talk straightaway or would they prefer to catch up properly the next day? Even intimacy with their spouse can be a problem within the first few days after a deployed military member returns home, a factor that many military couples do not even think will be an issue until it happens to them.

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