Miscarriage - It's Not Your Fault

Miscarriage is a very sad time for all concerned. After having looked forward to a new baby, sometimes for months, the dream suddenly ends. Often when this happens the mom or even the dad can end up feeling as though they did something wrong.

When a conception takes place half of the genes come from Mom, half from Dad. Sometimes something goes wrong and some of the pertinent information needed is missing. Because of this the baby will abort - called a miscarriage. Sadness, of course, often follows but so do feelings of guilt, particularly by the mom. She is often left wondering if she should have rested more, said "no" to that one alcoholic beverage or maybe she should've passed on having sex during the pregnancy.

In actuality, nothing the mother did or didn't do is to blame for the aborted pregnancy. Nature just has a way of knowing that the baby is not okay and takes care of the problem by causing a miscarriage.

When a woman miscarriages she often has cramps or has been feeling poorly that day. Blood spotting is often sighted just before the loss. It's important to contact your physician right away, not to try to save the baby - that's impossible - but to make sure that Mom is okay.

Your doctor might recommend a D&C (dilation and curettage) to make sure no tissue is still in the womb. It also protects the mom from infection due to the tragic event. The D&C is done in the hospital with the patient usually leaving within 24 hours.

Just because you've miscarried doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't get pregnant again in the future. Most doctors recommend that a few weeks go by before trying for another baby. After having lost one baby many parents-to-be worry that the same will happen again. Chances are after having one miscarriage that you will carry the next one to full term. After having experienced more than one miscarriage, though, the odds are higher that you'll miscarry once again.

Come to terms with the loss of the baby before trying for another. If you don't you could go the next 9 months worrying yourself sick over the pregnancy. Worry is definitely not a healthy way of life if you expect to carry the baby full-term.