Men Offering to Buy Women Drinks: How to Read the Gesture

Using the Tarot and Guidance from the Spirit Realm

Dear Zuri:

I met N in an airport in Texas on Feb 2008. I dropped my ticket and he returned it to me. From there, we started talking and found out we were both going to Monterrey Mexico. He was very sweet and he gave me his email address and cell phone number. We exchanged a few emails before he called me up at my hotel to ask me out for drinks. I rejected him twice. I don't know why, maybe because I don't like to drink. I called him after that and sent him a friendly email but he seemed cold and distant. I don't know what is happening. I want to know if he feels angry or insulted by me for rejecting him? He seemed interested in me and liked me but am I just one of the many girls that he approaches? Do you see me and N becoming good friends and will N get back in touch with me? Thank you so much and I look forward to hearing from you.

C 6/81 and N 6/83

Dear C,

My tarot cards indicate that he came on strong initially but he didn't like the blocks that you put up by rejecting his drink invitations and disappeared, leaving you feeling abandoned and confused. Refusing to go drinking with N was a good choice and not the real reason he backed away. He was not looking for a friendship when he contacted you. He was looking for an easy lay and a good time. When he realized you were not going to give him what he wanted, he moved on to pursue other women. That is why he changed on a dime when you refused him and was not the nice friendly guy you first met.

This wasn't a love connection for him or even an attempt at getting to know you for a potential serious relationship. In his mind, he was only going to put in enough effort to get you to meet him for drinks. If that wasn't going to happen, he was ready to move on because getting to know someone for more than just sex is just too much work and that there are a dozen girls that would fall for his superficial attention. Bottom line, this guy's focus is on partying and he has no intention of contacting you again for a friendship or anything meaningful.