How NOT to Pull a Bruce Hulse

Former male model Bruce Hulse has written a fashion-industry tell-all that has tongues wagging. Sex, Love, and Fashion: A Memoir of a Male Model details Hulse's steamy love affairs with supermodels Paulina Porizkova, Elle Macpherson and Tatjana Patitz, as well as actress Andie MacDowell.

Modelling for Calvin Klein and Levi's, Bruce Hulse became a household name in the 1980s and 90s. As a favorite of photographer Bruce Weber, he's worked with virtually all of the industry's biggest stars. Hulse's memoir recounts his wild ride all the way to the top, as well as some embarrassing incidents along the way.

As a sex columnist, I too have had my share of embarrassing incidents and sexy affairs with the semi-famous. But since kissing and telling is so gauche, I try to keep things mysterious while giving up some of the goods. Here are four tips on how not to pull a Bruce Hulse and burn all of your bridges at once.

Never reveal your sources
A lady or gentleman is good at keeping secrets when necessary. Though you'll certainly want to share your stories with the public, you should never reveal your sources the way Bruce Hulse does in his memoir. Not even if Barbara Walters asks you to just whisper it in her ear. Not even if the government wants you to spill the beans before a congressional committee. Not for a million dollars. Protect your sources; you never know when you might need a favor from one of them in the future.

Mystery is sexy, and so are nicknames
Naturally, you'll need names for the characters in your stories, so how about a few sexy pseudonyms? Think up witty monikers for the lovers you'd like to keep secret, but give the reader enough details that they might be able to guess who you're talking about. Try something descriptive yet vague, like Mr. Big in Sex and the City. And, as Anne Lamott suggests in Bird By Bird, if you endow your male lovers with small penises, they'll never admit that you're referring to them.