The Emotional Risk of Internet Romance

Is There Still Hope After the Boyfriend Changes His Mind About How He Feels?

Dear Zuri,

I met my ex in an online game in July of last year and we never really spoke to one another until a few months later when he asked me a question about stuff pertaining to the occult, which is a subject we're both interested in. As the days and weeks passed we grew closer and fell in love. For about 6 months we couldn't get enough of each other, seeing each other on msn and webcam whenever we could get a chance, staying up till the early hours of the morning talking. Soon after he became distant and told me that he needed his space. I told him that I'd back off for a little while but he didn't want me to. We were planning on meeting up in May this year but about three weeks before the time he broke up with me saying that the feelings that were once there for me had gone. We have mutual friends in common who had planned a trip to Europe this summer and who had asked me to go along. But he said he'd check with my ex first if it was okay. The ex said it was fine. My question is since I still have deep seated feelings for my ex cause I really loved him, still do, how should I act when I'm around him? I don't want to come across as being desperate and wanting to get back together (even though I do).

- AS 8/77 and TR 2/84

Hi A!