Sex Toys: How to Play as a Couple

Say the words "sex toys" and everyone's imagination starts going a mile a minute. Images start to dance in your mind, and your pulse begins to quicken. There's no doubt that sex toys are a bit edgy, a bit out of the box, more than a little bit of fun.

If you're interested in experimenting with sex toys and you're single, then there's no problem. All you have to do is find your local sex shop, or start surfing the 'Net, and you're golden.

If you're in a relationship, however, then things can get a bit complicated. Will your partner feel offended when you start talking about using sex toys? Will they feel hurt, imagining that they're lacking in some way?

Approaching your partner about experimenting with sex toys can be tricky, but it doesn't have to be.

First of all, it's important to realize that although you might have been playing with the idea of sex toys (pardon the pun there) for a while, chances are high that your partner hasn't been. So, they're coming in blind. You're going to need to go slowly here, and give them some time to get used to the idea.

Although sex toys are much more mainstream than they used to be, there are still a lot of people who view them as "perverted", or that they signal a problem in the bedroom if they're being used. If you think your partner might have these opinions, tread slowly and carefully!

Start by asking them how they feel about sex toys. Try to do this is the most non-threatening way possible; in fact, OUT of the bedroom is the best place to start exploring this topic (another hint: don't bring up using sex toys for the first time right before, or right after, having sex!).

Keep things light, and don't get upset if they automatically say "no" when you start talking about sex toys. Yes, they might be taken aback at first, but a drawback does not mean a full stop. Be patient.