Relationships: Advice for Teen Girls Starting to Date

Your parents normally decide what age you are allowed to date. They have good reasons for this. They are with you every day and know what your maturity and readiness level is. Parents were teens at one time and understand what you will be experiencing. They have your best interest at heart!

At what age should you date?

Talk openly to your parents about what age is appropriate for you to start dating. Be willing to hear their side and let them know your feelings about the issue. There isn't a set age for every teen. It depends on your maturity level, your willingness to go by your parents' rules and your ability to make solid decisions.

Don't turn the discussion into an argument. That in itself, may indicate to your parents, that you won't have the willingness to follow their rules about dating. If you are mature enough to date, you should have the maturity to engage in a constructive discussion with your parents. Don't react hastily with childish words, but listen to what your parents are saying. Then express your feelings calmly. There may be room to compromise, but you have to show maturity.

How do you know "who" to go out with on a date?

That boy you have your eye on may be really cute, but knowing who to date is about more than looks. It's important to date someone who shows you the utmost respect. Don't date someone just because they are cool or popular. If they are cool or popular, but also have good character and are respectful, that's another matter. The choices you make in "who" you date are very important.

Look for signs of how the person you want to date treats others. Are they respectful? Do they use foul language? Are they rude? Do they do bizarre things in an attempt to get attention? How do they treat females in general? If you see negative signs, they'll probably eventually treat you the same way. They may put on a good show early on to gain your attention, but a person either has respect or they don't.