How to Deal with "Predators" that Come Around Shortly After a Person Has Died

The passing of a loved one can bring out the "predators" or people who pop up out of nowhere usually shortly after a person has died and make offers on things that they would like to buy or perhaps can get free. These people might be next door neighbors, relatives, friends or strangers. Predators know when such a loss occurs they might be able to persuade those in mourning to part with items sometimes-priceless heirlooms, which may very well hold memories that are dear to the heart to those that are of little significance. Some predators may be easy to deal with by accepting the word "No or I'm keeping it." While others may tend to be more difficult. So how do you deal with predators?

Make no excuses.

The first step is to understand that you don't have to give any explanation to people as to why you are keeping the item they are targeting. For e.g., A neighbor from across the street comes over and asks to buy the vehicle that the deceased owned. Keep in mind they may think that they can get it cheap and at the same time are doing you a favor by taking it off your hands. You can politely tell them, "It's not for sale." and walk away. You don't have to tell them anything about why you are keeping it or that you may decide to sell it in the future.

I'm still grieving.

The second step to push away a predator if they keep coming around is to make it clear that you are still grieving and that you are not at the stage of parting with anything yet. Politely point out that, "It's too soon and I'm not one for making hasty decisions."

Find them rude and inconsiderate.

The third step in dealing with a predator is to let them know that they have interrupted your grieving period. Politely point out that you find them "Rude and inconsiderate for trying to take advantage of you."

Let people know ahead of time.

To let people know that you are still in the grieving process, consider posting a message on the front door that reads, "Still Grieving. Please no interruptions." You may also leave the message on the answering machine of a phone. Send emails or text messages to those who have approached you or those you think may approach you about something they have had their eye on and want.