How to Show Your Children You Love Them Even When Your Not with Them

Children crave security and closeness within their family. Family Traditions helped to shape a child's cultural identity and their personal identity. Today, more than ever, it is hard to keep family traditions alive. When there isn't enough gas money to visit distant relatives on Thanksgiving, mom is overseas serving her country, or dad is too busy with meetings to make the soccer game, kids can feel unloved and lose self esteem. If you follow the following steps in your child's life, it will help create a more stable, loving, family bond even if you aren't physically able to be present for some of the most important events in their life. This basic manual will be arranged by age appropriate suggestions, but you are the best judge of mental maturity so please be wise and keep that in mind.

Children as young as 11 months old will notice the absence of a major family member such as a mother or father. With children so young it may seem hard to communicate you love them from far away. However, it has been proven that children respond to attempts to show you care from a distance in many different manners. There are many different ways to show you love your child and offer a sense of stability in your absence even at this age. For this age the keys to connecting are regularity, frequency, simplicity, and familiarity.

One way to connect to children ages 6 months to 3 years old is to leave a digital recording of their favorite song. For example, you might sing the lullaby you always do on a digital camera before you leave. This can be played over and over in a loop until the child falls asleep. The sound of your voice will reassure the child you are still there. The picture of you singing for them will remind them it is you. This can be played on a home TV or a computer monitor placed with in view of the child's sleeping quarters.