Could Your Partner Potentially Be Abusive?

Most women will at one time or another make a bad choice for a partner.  Sometimes it's a boyfriend, other times it's a husband, and there are varying degrees of bad.  The sort of bad that this article will address is the most crucial: the abusive man.

All kinds of women, and unfortunately teenaged girls, are unwittingly entering into relationships with monstrous men who have a dangerous pattern of controlling and battering the women in their lives.  They obviously don't present this way when attempting to gain the trust and adoration of their latest pursuit, but they still exhibit behaviors that show their true colors despite their best efforts at deception.

The plan for a man like this is to get a woman so smitten with him, and possibly in love with him, that by the time it starts to get ugly, she won't want to walk away.  And most of the time they succeed with this.  A woman will have fallen in love with the idea of a man, the idea that was presented to her in the beginning.  She will keep trying to get that man back, and believe that she'll be able to if she just tries really hard to make him happy.  

This is the dangerous point at which the woman has begun to put her life on the line.  This is the point no woman even needs to reach if she can be vigilant and perceptive at the start of any relationship.  To do this, a woman needs to recognize the red flags and respond appropriately. 

Red Flag #1: Prior history with domestic violence
It doesn't matter if he tells you he was the victim of a misunderstanding, a false arrest, a lying girlfriend/wife.  Odds are, he behaved inappropriately, at best, with the woman in his life at the time.  And that's not the sort of character you want in a man anyway.  Even better odds are that he has a serious anger problem and has hurt women in the past.

Red Flag #2: He's presenting like a salesman
When a man is trying too hard to gain your affection, almost like a salesman eager to sell you a car, that's not good.  If he's honorable and well-intentioned, there won't be a need for you to "buy" anything.

Anger can turn violent in sick men.

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