15 Reasons Women Say "No" to Sex

Guys not getting any. It's a problem so common it's one of the biggest relationship cliches in our culture. Yet for all we talk about it, real causes and solutions are rarely suggested. Instead, we shrug our shoulders. Men insult women and women insult men while both groups repeat the same, sad, stereotypical explanations, widening the communication gap between the sexes and accomplishing absolutely nothing. But the truth is, there are common reasons for for women's reluctance. Some are our fault, some are yours, and some are nobody's fault at all!

So for all you straight guys out there who are tired of being told that you're not getting any because you're just not good enough, or that it's because women just don't like sex, or any other tired answers that aren't getting you any closer to having the sex you want, I've compiled this list. Based on my observations, reading, talking to women and personal experience as a chick, here are the 15 most common reasons women in relationships don't have sex - and what you can do about them.

Remember, you may be dealing with more than one issue, so look for combinations of these reasons as well.

Reason #1. Her testosterone is low.

Testosterone, while more abundant in men, is the same hormone that drives a woman's desire for sex. If her levels are low, desire will drop.

How To Know If This Is The Case: If she reports chronic difficulty getting aroused as her reason for having no interest in sex, low testosterone may well be the culprit.

What You Can Do: She should talk to her doctor about the issue, and if that doctor doesn't listen, find one who will (some doctors may ignore women's sexual problems or say that they're "normal"). There are hormone replacement options available, as well as prescriptions for sexual enhancement.

Reason #2. The sex sucks - and she doesn't want to tell you (or she already has).