Signals that You Are Getting Played

The pattern is all too common. One moment your relationship is riding a wave of closeness, lust and desire. But the next moment separation, solitary and preoccupation set in.

What is happening? Is it something that signals a slight problem, or is it just the natural ups and downs that happen at some point in relationships?

Often we are too involved to understand what we're going through. But we recognize that there might be a situation. But then, just as we decide to move in that direction, we decide to ignore it and make up excuses. A pattern repeats itself and we are once again at a loss to explain what is going on.

How do you know when things are headed in the wrong direction? For starters, there are common signs that can be clues. Once you see them, you better be on the road to believing.

The common signs of getting played are:

1. Way less clingy
2. No more nagging
3. Excuses
4. No Jealousy
5. Silence
6. Less time spent together
7. Paranoia
8. Ignorance
9. Manipulation of situations

1. Way Less Clingy

There is a natural increase and drecrase of attention that occurs in every relationship, but what we're talking about here is something else. When you look back on the days that your partner was borderline annoying and realize that hasn't happened in quite some time, their attention might be turned elsewhere

2. No More Nagging

There was a time where your partner was calling too much, or asking you questions that you already knew the answers to. And the ones that they didn't know the answers too, were questions so out of the blue. Those curiousities are gone, and so are all questions for that matter, like "How was your day?"

3. Excuses

There were no apologies, there were no mistakes. All of a sudden apologies wore thin and now there are what we call excuses. Regardless of whether or now the excuse is a truth or a lie, it is the corniest detail or unnessary explanation, that makes a reason, an excuse.

4. No Jealousy