How to Avoid Married Men While Searching for a Significant Other

I am about to share my true-life experiences as a single woman on how to avoid married men while searching for a significant other.

Or perhaps, this is really a How To Avoid Married Men primer in reverse? A how NOT to?

Figuring out how to avoid married men successfully while searching for a significant other has been a major challenge for this single woman of late. I seem to have become a magnet for married men looking for a single woman to help them avoid a significant other. WHY am I failing at how to avoid married men? WHY do I seem to be attracting married man like mosquitoes while searching for a significant other?

This flurry of married men is puzzling to me. I am not exactly a single woman poster girl for successful marriage, fantasy or otherwise. I am twice divorced and accept my responsibility for at least half of the failure in both divorce situations.

I am reasonably intelligent and insightful single woman. I've spent a gazillion years in therapy and like to think that I learn from my own mistakes. I find new mistakes all of the time, but I've gotten fairly good at avoiding repeats for the most part.

I try to be pretty honest about my own baggage. All four of my friendly married men are aware of my double-ex divorce status. All four know that I'm in debt and have a young adult daughter recovering from PTSD and an eating disorder.

These married men (seemingly in search of divorce status?) were all friends or former co-workers. I do think that come midlife, we all wonder about past friendships and yearn for some connection to earlier, younger days. But for me that desire had no connection to becoming some midlife fantasy girl. for man-o-pause married men in midlife crisis.

Activities with these married men friends were limited to what would be generally considered safe public places. Often busy public places. Now, safe public place was not a requirement, since I had no idea I was in need of a safe public place.