10 Tips on How to Survive the First Year of Marriage

I can already see the shocked faces. You need to GET THROUGH the first year of marriage? Isn't it supposed to be the honeymoon phase when you only take a pause to talk to each other now and again and then go back to bed? I was quite shocked when one of the couples at our reception brought this little myth to our attention - "Be careful, the first year will be the worst. If you can get through this, you are made." This said in the most serious of tones and the accompanying seriously concerned look. It put the fear of God into me.

Take a deep breath guys and gals, because it's true!! Of course it is wonderfully entertaining and very scary at times. It is like the requisite ride on the rollercoaster that I have come to fear so much. It is not all doom and gloom though. Never fear, cause the doc is here (and I do not mean Dr Phil). Just follow these directions to the letter and your safety will be assured.

1. Learn to listen.

Learn to listen and keep your own mouth shut. This is invaluable when situations like toothpaste caps pop up. Make sure that the holy grail of all bathroom offenses is not diminished by chirping in at the wrong time. Listen to your partner and then make sure that you calmly reflect your views before agreeing on the obvious solution of following your partner's instructions if they do not inconvenience you too much.

2. Have the "let's make some rules" chat.

Have this chat before the end of the honeymoon (and I mean the honeymoon). Set out those things that are really important to each of you, and if necessary, commit them to paper. Stick them on your fridge and stick to them. There is no reason that small details like clothes strewn all over the floor instead of in the laundry basket, should create panic.

3. Do not attack your partner when there is a difference of opinion.