Surprising Relationship Advice - Don't Be Too Modest and Polite

How Modesty and Politeness Kill Your Love Relationships

Love relationships are very different from other relationships. Relationship advice that works for interactions with colleagues and friends may strangle your love relationship. The following relationship advice can help you avoid sabotaging your love relationship through too much modesty and politeness.

How We Sabotage our Relationships without Realizing it

You had a good upbringing, so you know the basics of good behavior: be polite and modest. If someone compliments you, don't make a big deal out of it. If someone thanks you, you may say "don't mention it." Such relationship advice makes interactions with most people smoother. However, it may be deadly for your most significant relationship.

Your wife just thanked you for taking out the trash so she didn't have to. Perhaps you remembered to get something for her from the store. Instead of a accepting her thanks, you politely say "oh, it was nothing." Your husband complimented you on your outfit, or perhaps he noticed something you added to the family room. Being modest, you minimize it and deflect his compliment.

How Politeness Kills off Love Relationships

When your partner thanks you and you diminish its importance, you're robbing her of the special feeling that her happiness is important to you. If it really was nothing, meant nothing, maybe you don't love her as much as she thought.

When you deflect your husband's compliment, you're implying his opinion is not really important, that you don't need his approval. Doing that diminishes the feeling of partnership in ensuring you're both happy in your relationship.

This doesn't mean you should be arrogant or impolite to your love. Don't tell your husband to "move it already." It's not cool to tell your girlfriend her new dress is ugly. However, being too modest and polite can hurt your relationship.

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