Heartbroken: Getting Through a Traumatic Break Up

The emotional, spiritual and physical connection established in a relationship can be a beautiful experience for both individuals. From the first look until our relationship ends, we establish a connection with the person we love on some many levels. Finding that one person, our soul mate, to share our lives with isoften a difficult task to achieve. As a result, and unfrotunately, it is a reality that many hearts are broken before we are blesssed with the one special person we trust and love for the remainder of our lives. When going through a relationship break up, the emotions can be overwhelming often leading to bouts of depression and anger. Learning to address these emotions can lead to a more healthy recovery and a pleasant transition back into thedating scene.

Finding a replacementmateis not the key answer to break up induced anger and depression which commonly sets in after a break up occurs. Unfortunately, it is fact that many individuals, when heartbroken, will venture out and immediately settle into a new relationship, often referred to as the "rebound". Without regard to the personality of the new person,the heartbroken personwill use this new relationship to fill a void which often leads to the failure of the "rebound" relationship. So, when broken hearted, the first rule of Breaking Up 101 is to avoid entering into a new relationship right away. Allow time for your heart to heal.

Less #2 of Breaking Up 101: Take the "high road". When feeling angry and depressed after a break up,the heartbroken willbegin to act out irrationally. Some heartbroken individuals even go so far as to fabricate stories, file police reports, act out physically and attempt to harm the other person. The mentality of the heartbroken, when angry and depressed over a break up, isone of "if I can havehim/her, no one will have him/her". Whensuffering from a broken heart, it is imperative that you make a cognitivie decision to take the high road. In fact, going so far as to limit communication with the person may be crucial to your emotional recovery.