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But just being a bachelor or bachelorette in itself doesn't automatically mean that a person is grown up enough or responsible enough for an adult relationship.
Things to do while your partner obsesses with the Presidential Debates.
It seems as though sexual neutrality might be partially responsible for the lack of passion between many couples, but what about the gross levels of immaturity that so many adults demonstrate?
A controlling person tends to ignore their partner's authentic self and replaces it with a pretend personality which is what a controlling person is actually in love with. Perhaps this is reason enough to reject them for intimacy?
"Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about!" is an excellent example of parental abusive controlling behavior.
It's said that friends come in and out of our lives for specific reasons. This friend saved my life and though we've drifted apart, I'll never forget her.
Regardless of anything I've presented in this article that substantiates my opinion in why I feel that it's wiser for a couple to discern their sexual compatibilities before committing to marriage, I do feel that people should develop and adhere to their own beliefs.
People say a man will respect a woman more if she makes him wait for sex instead giving it to him soon after a relationship starts. Even though guys will suggest they respect a woman more for making him wait, does that actually make HIM any more respectable regardless?
Shortly after my ex-wife & I separated, I heard a rumor that I was supposedly going to show up at her work place on a murderous rampage 2 kill her, her lover & all other likeminded people who got in my way. After becoming aware of this rumor, my 1st thought was, R they nuts?
Supposing I hadn't taken the path of forgiveness and chose to lead a dysfunctional life filled with unforgivingness, what are the chances that I'd only repeated the same mistakes that lead me into my first incompatible and miserable marriage?
Ask yourself, if the player knows that the game is immoral or wrong, then why does he contribute the perpetuation of it in the first place?
Why REALLY do these two words offend people so badly?
It's obvious that most people don't handle rejection very well, but that's not really my personal problem to deal with. If I've rejected someone, especially if they're a stranger, "I'm not interested" should be sufficient for them!
New on the Heavy Metal scene with Metallica latest release, Death Magnetic. Is it one of their finest albums or a good indication that maybe it's time to retire?
Instead of misguidedly focusing my studies primarily on my life, my inadequacies, my strengths and weakness and the same of other people around me, I started reading books written by Psychologists. Suddenly, my usage of the word "Chemistry" changed to "Compatibility".
We dont live in a perfect world, but thats no excuse 4 couples marrying w/o 2st putting 4th a genuine effort 2C if their relationship can evolve to a 9 or 10. If Ur unable to evolve your relationship from 1 to 8, why bother entering into marriage if Ur not suitable for it?
There's often an ongoing debate throughout many online Black Women and White Man interracial forums about why so many white men will not approach black women. Needless to say, this gets pretty damned frustrating for many black women!
Of the many things we can do to aide in our healing processes, what I'm offering in this article are changes that we can make in our lives that might help us to avoid becoming completely stagnated as so many people unfortunately do.
In taking the expression Player-Hater to a new level, this article addresses and breaks down some of the deceptive games that Players try running on unsuspecting women.
Lately in BwWm IRR forums, I've been seeing more and more younger black women stating that they're really not too overly impressed or pleased with white guys who fawningly express there IR interests being as such simply because they're specifically attracted to black skin.
TV comedy/drama series Ally McBeal was quite popular with many people. But given the degree of drama that exists in people's actual lives, is the show's popularity really any wonder?
Or does this particular ideal largely contribute to the vast failure rate of people's relationships & marriages? Just saying, the failure rate can be proved, but relationships don't fail without reason and that's what I'm offering here, a possible reason.
I've studied love & relationships for the past 3 years & with the divorce rates NOT getting any better, I've decided to share this with you in hopes that maybe it might spark an epiphany of sorts to help you understand another approach to relationships.
I often find myself rather stunned with how sensitive & inconsistent some people are towards descriptive text regarding the various human races & ethnicities. 2-C some1 become offended when a simple difference or variation of race, ethnicity or skin color is harmlessly used.
I do feel that these problems can be overcome, but I think before that happens, I feel that a lot of people need to own up to their own faults and inadequacies and stop behaving so irresponsibly and recklessly. But then again, where's the fun in being responsible?
If someone really is REAL, then why can't their actions alone be enough to suggest that? Sometimes when people brag about their sense of realness, what they're really doing to desperately trying to mask that that there's absolutely nothing real about themselves whatsoever.
Is it really fair to generalize an entire race and gender with something that potentially invalidates some people's genuine insecurities, fears and weaknesses?
When I think of the word "Swagger", I immediately think of a person who longs to be socially accepted, so they portray a façade of coolness that's ultimately designed to mask their insecurities and LACK of character.
Oh just read it, the title is self explanatory!
Have you ever heard anyone say that having an adulterous affair can actually help a couple's failing marriage? Have you felt rather stunned if the person who happened to have said this to you is actually a psychologist, psychiatrist or a relationship therapist?
I often read stories of people who've always put forth an enormous effort to nurture their relationships with people they love & how they do everything they can to make these people happy, only to feel completely used & emotionally, physically & mentally drained in the end.
Is it possible that when a man says this to a woman, he's not really being a gentleman at all and only regards her as an Attention Whore?
Parenting is an extremely delicate responsibility that many people seem rather apathetic about. Some sociopathic and sadistic people will even opine that they feel they have the God given right to f**k up their children and I vehemently disagree!
One thing that never ceases to amaze me is when someone makes a prejudicial assumption that just because a person is single or divorced that this alone automatically means that the person doesn't know anything substantial about love and relationships.
Is it true that some cheaters can "Change", or is it more truthful to say that they've only changed up until this point in time right now? Will the remain changed tomorrow?
I recently read a book on childhood sexual abuse, SURVIVING CHILDHOOD SEXUAL ABUSE by Carolyn Ainscough & Kay Toon. While reading this book, I found myself surprised as I didn't realize that forcefully exposing a person to porn is considered sexual abuse.
Just because your sexual frequency doesn't match or exceed the national average accordingly, that in itself by no means automatically implies doom in your relationship!
I've come to learn that forgiveness has many levels and as we transcend these levels, we're presented with deeper and more meaningful opportunities for enlightenment. But is it possible that if we're not careful, forgiveness can lead to a path of evil?
Many people are so emotionally and psychologically traumatized with their spouse's infidelity that they're unable to see that it's actually a blessing in disguise.
I believe that feminism is potentially harmful to our children and if we don't teach them healthier views and values, then the social dysfunction that plagues our society will simply continue and expand. Is that acceptable to you?
While many people are attracted to Attention Whores, many decent people live in fear of them. Why fear something that can actually be used to your own advantage? Attention Whores do a great job in parting the crowd into those of interest & those of no interest whatsoever!
Oh, just read it!
Is it possible that expressing ancestral pride prevents a person from truly becoming their own authentic individual? In my opinion, yes, it absolutely does!
If they're shamelessly venting sexual behavior in a crowd, or clearly seeking the sexual attention of several other people right now, would you be comfortable calling this person your spouse if they were to continue this behavior after you're married?
I loved this movie & as much as I was ready to see closure to John Rambo's character, I was also a little saddened as I knew we'd never get to see his heroic actions again. Between the characters of Rambo & Rocky lies the essence of a man I can truly look up to & respect.
How we conduct or demonstrate our psychoanalysis greatly attributes to the level of harmony that exists within our various interpersonal relationships.
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I believe this book would be a great starting point for an individual with only a fundamental understanding of forgiveness, but if you're seeking a significant degree of elevated awareness, this book may only serve as a reminder to that which you already know.
I simply can't imagine the life of an adulterer as they live each day in shame of what they've become. To harbor so much guilt, fear and pain must feel like hell on earth.
I suppose it all hinges on one's definition of the word "Gentleman", but in my opinion, any man who's attracted to a woman for such superficial and stereotypical reasons is by no means an evolved man with good character.
What she's really asking is "Are you a sincere individual of good moral character and integrity with whom I can share a quality and lasting relationship with in true love and harmony without fear of any external forces destroying our relationship?"
If a person expressed their commitment and fidelity to their partner, why would they make a conscious choice to engage in flirtatious behavior that tends to provoke a sexual fantasy of someone other than their partner? Do they condone emotional cheating?
For an individual to stalk another person, it's just too much to think that they're mental sound.
A buddyship between 2 people yields 2 people in the outcome. A connection between 2 people yields a psychological & spiritual oneness thats capable of growth, direction & evolution. A bond leads to the convenient store, a connection leads to transcendence
When a mature & responsible single parent's family structure only involves them & their children, that's where their priorities lay. But two childless singles in a relationship regard each other as their highest priority yielding a stronger relationship.
Is it possible that some black men, who engage in IRRs themselves, harbor guilt because their actions don't attribute to race preservation, so they're transferring their guilt in form of similar accusations towards black women in interracial relationship?
The general nature of a crush or puppy love is superficial at best & I can't help questioning the character & emotional health of a grown adult demonstrating crush-like behavior. What does it say when such behavior is demonstrated by an experienced adult?
Expressions like "Because I Said So" and "Do as I say and not as I do" are examples of parents demonstrating emotional abuse towards their children. Though many parents might not see it as such, the effects of such abuse can leave their children scarred for life.
When someone says that they're sick and tired of being single, what they're really saying is that they're miserable within and of themselves and they think that having a partner will change that. But they couldn't be further from the truth.
Have you ever noticed how certain social cliques tend to try and latch on to newcomers so that they can groom them and deceive them into blindly conforming to their ways? You do realize it's all rooted in fear, hate and envy, right?
How can some people blame others for deteriorating the overall look when the behavior that they themselves demonstrate doesn't reflect the overall image of what they say this whole thing should be about? Do they even understand professional consistency?
I noticed some loquacious racist white guy say to a victim-minded white woman "Sadly, you're not his type!" This was an indirect reference to me that I've dealt with from time to time with hateful minded and ignorant people who find IRRs unnatural.
Many men are primitive beings who have no business being in an adult relationship with a good woman. Men try breaking the ice with scripted superficial questions instead of meaningful dialogue that promotes deep and meaningful connections with a woman.
Since many people have asked me to define sexual compatibility after seeing it mentioned throughout my articles, I've taken on the challenge of writing a full length article on it. From raw sexual intercourse to Tantric sex, it's all here!
It never ceases to amaze me when unethical, immature, unprofessional & hypocritical PETS complain about others doing the exact same things they do themselves. And these dysfunctional people have the NERVE to complain about not getting a gig? Get Real!
If you're experiencing quirky malfunctions with your cell phone, such as the display image not showing properly when you turn your phone on or the phone not turning on at all after you've flipped it open, it could be the memory card causing your problems!
I fail to see how people can complain that because of their associations, they need not apply. But to watch their behavior, it's obvious to me, they're their own worst enemy, and they cannot see. If they'd only grow up, maybe then the door'll swing open.
This was by far one of the best self-help books I've ever read. This is a book written about black women FOR black women about the various crisis we experiences throughout our lives and how to survive them. This is a must read for anyone struggling with their crises.
Emotional Cheating is something that plagues many relationships causing them to deteriorate and fail, but amazingly enough, it's a concept that many people outright reject. So with the use of The Love Bank, I'm explaining how volatile EC is can be to one's relationship.
I'll occasionally see a guy who expresses how happily married he is, yet you see him regularly coming to the rescue of various women online during their childish dramas & you just have to ask yourself, if he's married, then why is he bothering with some online woman's drama?
Some victims of sexual abuse engage in therapeutic recovery programs and evolve to become abuse survivors while others lead their lives demonstrating victim-minded behaviors. Here I'm demonstrating how victim-minded people are a potential danger to our society.
I don't like social cliques, I never have. I feel they're toxic in nature and they interfere with personal growth. But to get mad when someone calls it a "Clique", c'mon now, now only is that denial, it's a perfect example of dysfunctional behavior.
Not that I'm trying to express concern for Cheaters, but something came to mind where some cheaters might be being taken advantage of without realizing what's really happening. Think about it, why are so many people apathetic towards a person's history of cheating?
I've found that I'm indifferent about the idea that a man will respect a woman more if she withholds sex from him for the first several months of their relationship. There are some disingenuous elements here that I think changes things.
I'm currently reading a book by Iyanla Vanzant and she's taught me a brutal lesson in why it's important for me to accept that my life is the only life that I'm ultimately responsible for, and if people are going to make mistakes, they're THEIR mistakes and not mine.
Evil seems to blatantly visible to me. Everywhere I look, I see it stalking people and consuming them and they're completely unaware. But what can I do, it's not like I can convince a fool that they're doing something foolish, right?
Engaging socially can be a very rewarding experience, but when in the presence of various people who regularly demonstrate a complete lack of self-love, such occasions can prove to be a big test of our character, especially once they've labeled you a hater.
Call me arrogant, inconsiderate or whatever you want, but when someone's comments only say things like "Hey, Great Article", that means they're only trying to placate the author and I find that to be painfully superficial.
Just some thoughts I had regarding the degree of competitive behavior that I've noticed between many writers and how I think it could spoil the ambitions of a new writer who has many great things to share.
I think that too many people really have no clue how big the word Relationship is and because of their religious views, they're depriving themselves the ability to really judge their overall compatibility with their partners, to include their sexual compatibility as well.
Rape is one of the most heinous crimes a human being can commit and because of it's often unpredictable nature, I believe that people may be increasing the risks of being raped by openly demonstrating graphic sexual behavior in the presence of strangers.
Paternity Leave benefits are often unequal to Maternity Leave benefits and I find this to be quite inconsistent in the equal rights movements that so many Americans are in support of. So what are the real reasons for such unequal rights in this regard?
I absolutely despise cheaters & I've made it a personal quest to understand how these scumbags operate & blast their manipulative mind games. In this post, Im describing why it's true that most cheaters will cheat again & again along with demonstrating some of their tactics.
I'm a firm believer that things like Deception, Manipulation and Mind Games are very unhealthy components in a relationship, but that's mostly what this book is about; teaching women to behave manipulatively and deceptively in their interactions with potential partners.
I cant help wondering if some of us develop such strict relational preferences that it might cause us to overlook a potential partner with whom we could have had a very healthy & loving relationship with. Are preferences misleading & only reflective of what we THINK we want?
My tribute to a wonderful bunch of people.
Soul Mates and "The One" is something plaguing many singles and a part of me can't help thinking that this phenomena might actually be working against people and KEEPING them single. I think it's unrealistic to think that there's only 1 person on Earths purposed for you.
I'm reading a book titled THE VAVLUE IN THE VALLEY by Iyanla Vanzant and I'm bridging her message of Down Time and Personal Stillness during periods of Rut, to the unfortunate act of engaging in Rebound Relationships. I've acknowledged a very valuable lesson here.
There are many among us who absolutely act gratified by all the unnecessary crude sex-talk that often arises as we're meeting new people, but this unfortunately projects onto those who are actually putting forth a genuine effort when trying to make sincere connections.
Sometimes we find ourselves in a rut feeling helpless, then along comes a friend who unselfishly helps you rise up and shares their strength to help you continue on. We regularly misuse the word Friend in our travels, but when you have a true friend, you don't travel alone.
I believe that as we're referencing the Divorce Rates here in America, we're misrepresenting what really matters with regards to the success rate have happy marriages. Just because a couple doesn't seek divorce, that doesn't automatically imply that they're happily married!
This topic will BORE YOU TO DEATH, lol. Please, for the Love of GOD, DON'T READ THIS ARTICLE. You'll want to claw your eyes out if you bother to read this!!! Save yourselves, click the "X", NOW!!!
Many people find themselves with a partner who's sabotaging their relationship and this can result in a LOT of unnecessary drama. But if you really have any degree of self-respect, you should understand that someone sabotaging their relationship is doing you a HUGE favor!
Something just occurred to me in that some people may resort to cheating and adultery because of how stigmatized breaking up and divorce is. I know that sounds twisted, but have a read before you judge what I'm proposing here.
At one point in time while listening to the song "Leader of the Band" by Dan Fogelberg, I found myself questioning whether or not my spiritual parents are actually different than my Earthly parents. But how would one ever know while they're still living?
"Humility" is something I think many people regard as something negative, and with a general lack of awareness, I suppose it may very well be. But what if you could receive humility as a gift, could it actually be something that might save your life?
Because I regularly opine my views on people being "Friends First" instead of dating, I'm often asked to define the difference between the two. So, I've done just that AND tacked on a Poll Question accordingly at the end of my post. PEACE!
In my opinion, if an individual commits adultery, I feel that automatically forfeits their compatibility with their partner, but I've been asked to spell out a framework for couples to reunite after one of them commits adultery and that's what I've presented here.
In the past 3 years, I've grown quite fond of various Moral Stories, which is why I've always loved the show Little House on the Prairie. But 1 episode taught me an important lesson in that sometimes when we think we're praying for others, we're really praying for ourselves.
I find myself shuddering as certain professionals demonstrate behavior that seems very contradictory to their professions. You have to ask yourself, does someone having a degree in any particular field and being state certified really mean that they're GOOD at what they do?
Spiritual Death is something that plagues many people. Whether it's from feeling unlucky in love to simply not knowing your purpose in life anymore, many people become stagnant in their lives as they're unable to continue forward after certain turning points in their lives.
As difficult & competitive as it is in the dating scene today, I think it's important for a person, who's putting forth a genuine and sincere effort to seek out a quality partner, to consider every possibility as their judging a potential new partner's sincerity and honesty.
In line with the expressions, "Things aren't always as they seem" and "Why do relationships have to be so complicated", is it possible that a woman who's regularly dating "Bad Boys" while complaining of relationship complexities is actually running malicious game of her own?
There are women who willingly & openly parade the fact that they're having their period, but why? Are there both sincere & malicious reasons for doing so? Why would any woman openly share such personal information with anyone, especially a perfect stranger? Read on to see!
I'm disappointed in people opining that love doesn't exist. When I take a look at their behavioral patterns and general understanding of love and relationships, it's not that love doesn't exist anymore; they just don't know how to pick the right person to experience it with!
Online Interracial Romance forums can be fun to participate in, but I've quite often found that many of them don't really seem to nurture the elements really necessary to substantiate quality and healthy relationships and may only serve to keep many singles single.
The singles scene can be very stressful for sincere people putting forth a genuine effort seeking out partners. But with the toxicity in the singles scene, some people resort to running Background Checks on potential new partners. But is that violating someone's boundaries?
Its important for people to understand what they're really getting themselves into as they're engaging in relationships with the proverbial Bad Boy or Bad Girl. Their impressive charm and wit is nice, but does that substantiate a quality partner for a long term relationship?
Have you ever seen a man who's venting his emotions being maliciously & unfairly labeled as Bitchaphied? Granted, I think some people can be a little overly dramatic with their crying at times, but where does one draw the line between a man being sensitive and TOO sensitive?
One thing I've grown VERY tired of throughout the singles scenes are the BS Mind Games, Manipulation Tactics & Deceptions that many people play. And when women TEASE men with their sexuality, she's just demonstrating why some people DESERVE to be single in the first place!
From seeking intimate relationships for the wrong reasons, to advancing their relationship too quickly, most relationships these days FAIL! So why not take a different approach; instead of jumping in the sheets after only a few dates, why not trying to be just friends first?
One thing I really dislike in the cloud of racism in our country is the double standards that many people subscribe to. But when a grown adult's dramatic theatrics adds fuel to the fire, it clearly demonstrates that our society actually LIKES racism & dysfunctional behavior.
There's been many times when I've felt the internet has given way to many people allowing the world to see their absolute worst behavior and often times, cloaked under an anonymous screen name. But can this closeted behavior eventually leak out into a person's everyday life?
I've found it to be very irresponsible and unfair for a woman to solely judge a man's character based on his relationship with his mother and if she's judged him poorly accordingly, she COULD be passing up a quality relationship in the process.